Why You Feel You Must Earn Your Existence
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Do you feel like you need to earn your right to take up space? In this video, we explore the psychology of shrinking body language, over-justifying needs, and the apology reflex that keeps you small. Learn how to unlearn the habit of earning existence and embrace presence over performance. Chapters: 00:00 The Real Problem 00:15 The Shrinking Body 00:31 Childhood Roots 00:47 Rejection Sensitivity & Body Language 01:03 Over-Explaining as Coping 01:19 Achievement as Survival 01:35 Masking in Neurodivergence 01:51 The Paradox of Achievement 02:07 Unlearning the Reflex 02:23 The Shrinking Cycle 02:39 The Safety of Smallness 02:55 The Fear of Taking Space 03:11 The First Step 03:27 The Resistance 03:43 The Unlearning 03:59 The Small Wins Sources & further reading: ā¢ Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology ā https://guilfordjournals.com/journal/jscp ā¢ Patterns of Attachment: A Psychological Study of the Strange Situation ā Mary Ainsworth's 1978 seminal work on attachment styles ā¢ American Psychological Association ā https://www.apa.org ā¢ National Association for Gifted Children ā https://www.nagc.org ā¢ Journal of Emotion ā https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/emo ā¢ Autistic Self Advocacy Network ā https://autisticadvocacy.org
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